Tired of sex and intimacy feeling like something to brace for, manage or avoid? When fear, pain, anxiety or shame start shaping what you initiate, what you avoid and how intimacy unfolds, vaginismus reaches far beyond penetration.

Sometimes, what looks like safety is a life organised around avoiding activation; less risk, less sensation, less intimacy, less aliveness.

Our work isn’t about regulating you to be calmer, it’s about building the compassionate capacity to stay connected to yourself as desire, sensation, activation, arousal and possibility begin to move again. We look at the whole protective pattern, including muscular holding, breath, nervous-system responses, pain and threat prediction, avoidance, boundaries, relationships and your connection with pleasure. We explore how that pattern is being maintained now, creating more room for choice, intimacy, connection and a sex life with more freedom, pleasure and possibility.

Trying to conceive can feel very different when you are also navigating pelvic pain, endometriosis, adenomyosis, PMOS or previous pregnancy loss.

You may be carrying the fear that something has been missed, the exhaustion of being told everything looks “normal”, or the pressure of wondering what else you should be doing before you try for a baby.
I support these more complex preconception journeys by looking beyond conception alone. Together, we explore the wider terrain of preconception, oocyte, hormonal, implantation, microbiome and endometrial health, alongside the interconnected influences of thyroid, metabolic and digestive health, inflammation, cellular energy, nervous-system load and pelvic health.

I’m not here to turn your body into a project of endless optimisation; I’m here to help you understand the wider physiological terrain, identify what matters now, and recognise where meaningful change is possible. So you can participate actively in your care and move forward with greater clarity, informed choice and confidence.

We have lost the art of bodywork. Women and vulva-bodied people move through menstruation, fertility, pregnancy, pregnancy loss, postpartum, perimenopause and menopause carrying whole seasons of tenderness, ache, exhaustion, grief, expansion and becoming; and are too often left physically untended through it all.

There are places talking and coaching can take us, and places language alone will never quite reach.

Sometimes we need to return through body, breath and bone, to be met by hands crafted in compassionate touch, deep listening, and body literacy in order to receive rather than manage, to soften in connection, and to be held without having to explain.

This is bodywork as tending: a way of remembering that your body is not simply something to manage through each transition, but something worthy of care, attention and relationship all the way through.